Help Me Understand this sleeping routine

[kenshireen]

I told my GF that I might be coming down. I told her I would get a 2 bedroom apt for a week, She has 2 children... a daughter 16 and a son 10.
I asked her how many BEDS in the childrens bedroom... She said ONE...
Maybe this is something with the culture but in my mind to have a 16 yo girl in the same bed as her 10 brother doesn't seem right

 

[NanSanPedro]

I can't comment on Dominicans but this is absolutely normal in Haiti. If possible, they will split between the 2 genders, but because of lack of space, $, and beds, many will sleep together. The operative word being sleep.

 

[AlterEgo]

I told my GF that I might be coming down. I told her I would get a 2 bedroom apt for a week, She has 2 children... a daughter 16 and a son 10.
I asked her how many BEDS in the childrens bedroom... She said ONE...
Maybe this is something with the culture but in my mind to have a 16 yo girl in the same bed as her 10 brother doesn't seem right

You’re not in Kansas anymore.

I know one family who sleeps entire family in one room, parents, 2 sons, one daughter, all kids mid- late teens.

 

[CristoRey]

I told my GF that I might be coming down. I told her I would get a 2 bedroom apt for a week, She has 2 children... a daughter 16 and a son 10.
I asked her how many BEDS in the childrens bedroom... She said ONE...
Maybe this is something with the culture but in my mind to have a 16 yo girl in the same bed as her 10 brother doesn't seem right

This is normal down here.
Welcome to Wonderland.

 

[kenshireen]

This is normal down here.
Welcome to Wonderland.

if i offered a separate bed for each child would my GF be insulted

 

[AlterEgo]

if i offered a separate bed for each child would my GF be insulted

No. You’re overthinking this.

 

[cavok]

Totally normal here. Just get an apto with twin beds in one bedroom. She won't be insulted and the kids will be grateful.

 

[CristoRey]

if i offered a separate bed for each child would my GF be insulted

If I were you I'd offer to sleep on the floor and see what she says. It will be a fantastic indicator of what you can expect going forward.

 

[Lucifer]

Growing up in Higüey, we were many; the beds were few.

 

[jd426]

Growing up in Higüey, we were many; the beds were few.

At the Orphanage ?

 

[Lucifer]

At the Orphanage ?

For someone as sensitive as you, jd400-something and pride and joy of Croatia, you surely do love to pick a fight.

This is a serious topic. So, go somewhere else with your "funny" remark.

 

[kenshireen]

Totally normal here. Just get an apto with twin beds in one bedroom. She won't be insulted and the kids will be grateful.

So both the children are going to sleep on a single twin bed. Why would that make them grateful.. I would think if they had their own bed they would be grateful. AND do you expect me to sleep with my gf on a single twin... Am I missing something in your answer

 

[kenshireen]

If I were you I'd offer to sleep on the floor and see what she says. It will be a fantastic indicator of what you can expect going forward.

I dont know if you are serious or not..

 

[AlterEgo]

So both the children are going to sleep on a single twin bed. Why would that make them grateful.. I would think if they had their own bed they would be grateful. AND do you expect me to sleep with my gf on a single twin... Am I missing something in your answer

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

 

[kenshireen]

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

help me out here. I really want to do the right thing and if possible give the kids a bit more comfort that they are used to... calll it a treat

 

[El Hijo de Manolo]

So both the children are going to sleep on a single twin bed. Why would that make them grateful.. I would think if they had their own bed they would be grateful. AND do you expect me to sleep with my gf on a single twin... Am I missing something in your answer

Ken I'll give you an example. I'm not rich, probably middle class by US standards. I have a modest 2 bedroom. My two kids share a bed. I got a futon for guests. When my kids' mother visits and stays they all pile in the bed together it looks like a jigsaw puzzle. And they are as happy as can be. It's a nice futon too. Oh well.

I wouldn't sleep in a twin bed with anyone. I wouldn't sleep on the floor because i know this guy who got drunk passed out on the floor and a centipede crawled into his mouth and bit his lip.

Again, just my experience!

 

[kenshireen]

AND now here comes the question I have been holding back on.
There have been exchanges of "hacer el amor". Not sure what is expected and what is not appreciated or is appreciated.
I know there are experts on this forum...

 

[El Hijo de Manolo]

help me out here. I really want to do the right thing and if possible give the kids a bit more comfort that they are used to... calll it a treat

A queen bed and let them have at it. They'll be in heaven! Mine are on an extended full size!

 

[El Hijo de Manolo]

AND now here comes the question I have been holding back on.
There have been exchanges of "hacer el amor". Not sure what is expected and what is not appreciated or is appreciated.
I know there are experts on this forum...

Good luck sir!

 

[kenshireen]

Ken I'll give you an example. I'm not rich, probably middle class by US standards. I have a modest 2 bedroom. My two kids share a bed. I got a futon for guests. When my kids' mother visits and stays they all pile in the bed together it looks like a jigsaw puzzle. And they are as happy as can be. It's a nice futon too. Oh well.

I wouldn't sleep in a twin bed with anyone. I wouldn't sleep on the floor because i know this guy who got drunk passed out on the floor and a centipede crawled into his mouth and bit his lip.

Again, just my experience!

Gracias, I assume you live in DR. So you think a 16 yo girl likes sleeping next to her 10yo brother... Hey, I am very open-minded but maybe this type of behavior contributes to the early pregnancies with no daddy at home. Just my .02 OH, and now they have centipedes over there..