So, last year in May 2017 my best friend/roommate(25) met this guy(idk his age) while on vacation at Punta Cana. He was one of the workers at the resort and she fell in love with him. When this first occured and she told me about it I felt skeptical and encouraged her to be careful but now I believe it is getting very serious lately.
When my friend first met her guy she expressed that they had a connection and when they had sex she felt even more deeply for him she returned back to the US and he asked her to be his gf and she said yes and they have been together for a year now.They talk every day and she has went to visit him twice in DR. I have talked to her bf on the phone a couple of times just saying hi and bye but nothing in depth.
From what I know her bf no longer works at the resort because he got fired and now works somewhere else. My bff doesnt tell me much in regards to their relationship because she doesnt like when people tell her to becareful or that he may be using her but from what I hear she sends him money here and there and recently she told me he is coming to visit in September (U.S), she has expressed several times to me that she eventually wants him to live with us and calls him her future hubby. I'm wary because he could be using her to get his papers, he has no money or an education, and lastly, a stranger will be living in our house. I dont know what to do or how to get her to understand what she is doing. We are young and educated and she is about to graduate with her masters. I dont think its feasible for her to bring him here and then have to be the one to provide for him for the rest of her life. Also,for him to become a citizen she most likely has to marry him and I feel like she will. One day she was asking him how does his friends get to America and become citizens and he said marriage and she said okay.She hasnt had good luck with guys in our hometown so she has given up she expressed she rather have her guy who can work 3 jobs under the table than a guy here.So, it seems like she sees him as the ultimate man of her life.
What should I do to help my friend?
When my friend first met her guy she expressed that they had a connection and when they had sex she felt even more deeply for him she returned back to the US and he asked her to be his gf and she said yes and they have been together for a year now.They talk every day and she has went to visit him twice in DR. I have talked to her bf on the phone a couple of times just saying hi and bye but nothing in depth.
From what I know her bf no longer works at the resort because he got fired and now works somewhere else. My bff doesnt tell me much in regards to their relationship because she doesnt like when people tell her to becareful or that he may be using her but from what I hear she sends him money here and there and recently she told me he is coming to visit in September (U.S), she has expressed several times to me that she eventually wants him to live with us and calls him her future hubby. I'm wary because he could be using her to get his papers, he has no money or an education, and lastly, a stranger will be living in our house. I dont know what to do or how to get her to understand what she is doing. We are young and educated and she is about to graduate with her masters. I dont think its feasible for her to bring him here and then have to be the one to provide for him for the rest of her life. Also,for him to become a citizen she most likely has to marry him and I feel like she will. One day she was asking him how does his friends get to America and become citizens and he said marriage and she said okay.She hasnt had good luck with guys in our hometown so she has given up she expressed she rather have her guy who can work 3 jobs under the table than a guy here.So, it seems like she sees him as the ultimate man of her life.
What should I do to help my friend?